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My Big Kinky Erotica Post, Part Two

I hope you enjoyed my previous post on erotic classics from decades past.  But if you enjoy modern erotica more than the older stuff, give these titles a look!

Bared to You by Sylvia Day (June 2012)

There’s a lot of buzz about this book, and it seems to be at the top of a lot of summer to-read lists.  Some dismiss it as just a Fifty Shades copycat, while others say it’s better and even hotter.  The first in a new erotica trilogy (of course), Bared to You is the story of a young woman’s relationship with a possessive but emotionally distant millionaire.

Okay, so it’s pretty much exactly like Fifty Shades.  Come on, even the cover art is similar!  The only major differences between the two are the settings (Bared is set in New York) and the personality of the female protagonist.  Unlike the virginal Ana in Fifty Shades, Eva is just as emotionally damaged as her lover Gideon.  She was sexually abused as a child, and this makes it difficult for her to trust men, especially men like Gideon, who is hiding secrets of his own.

The sex scenes are a lot of fun and main characters are passable, but the story doesn’t really go anywhere other than “I like him but I’m not sure he’s right for me.”  Plus it’s so hard not to keep comparing this book to Fifty Shades when it’s so similar.  However, I will give the writing credit for being a lot more adult (i.e. no “inner goddess” or “holy Moses”).  There are hints that Eva and Gideon will enter into a D/s relationship in the next book, but this book contains very few BDSM elements.

If you want hot sex scenes with gorgeous people in them, Bared to You delivers.  The writing is pretty good, I just wish there was more to the plot and the characters.  I’m optimistic that the next book will explore the main characters in more depth.  The sequel is due out this October, and I’ll probably read it and review it in a future post, because I am curious to find out what happens!

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Please, Sir: Erotic Stories of Female Submission by Rachel Kramer Bussel (2010)

If short stories are your thing, then this collection will definitely get you all hot and bothered!  Please, Sir contains twenty-two BDSM stories involving female submissives.  This is a very diverse collection that spans across the BDSM spectrum, from spanking and light bondage to choking, punishment, heavy bondage, and multiple partners.  While there is some hard play in some of these stories, there is also an aspect of love and caring depicted as well, which makes this book rather intriguing.

This is a very well-edited collection, with a pretty wide range of topics to suit a variety of tastes.  There were only one or two stories that didn’t appeal to me (one involved “water sports”…but hey, to each her own), but I definitely enjoyed the vast majority of them.  A few of my favorites were “Anticipation,” “Long Time Gone,” and “The Negotiation.”

Aside from being engaging and arousing, what’s also appealing about these stories is how all the characters are regular people.  No gorgeous billionaires or geniuses with perfect bodies here.  The characters in Please, Sir could be your friends, coworkers, or neighbors.  Reading this book might make you look at the people around you and wonder who among them has a secret kinky side!

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Best Erotic Romance by Kristina Wright (2011)

If you’re in the mood for steamy sex but BDSM isn’t quite your cup of tea, then pick up this collection of hot short stories.  Trust me, it’s anything but vanilla!  From Cleis Press, the same company that published Please, Sir, this book offers passionate sex in a variety of fun situations.  The writers include Bared to You author Sylvia Day.

The main theme of this collection is romantic relationships.  The men and women in this book find themselves at different points in their relationships, and for them, sex and emotion are always connected.  ”First Night” tells the story of a couple’s wedding night, while in “Memories for Sale,” a couple wonders whether to end their marriage.  The couple in “What Happened in Vegas” decide to turn their off-and-on tryst into a long-term relationship, and in “Drive Me Crazy,” a manager and her subordinate decide to become more than just coworkers.

The sex is passionate, and the stories all portray loving couples in different kinds of relationships.  This collection is a great combination of romance and erotica, and is perfect for those who prefer more upbeat stories with happier endings.

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SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman (1998)

OK, so this one isn’t fiction, but I have a good reason for adding it in here!  I keep hearing about how the resurgence in the erotica genre has led to a huge boost in sales of ropes, cable ties, and other things that can be used to spice up one’s sex life.  And while that’s totally awesome, what some may not realize is that there are certain techniques involved in using this “equipment,” and everyone should know how to play safely.

SM 101 is written by an active member of the BDSM lifestyle, and is a great guide for newbies who are interested in experimenting with different types of play.  It covers everything, from spanking (yes, there are different ways to spank ;) ) to bondage, clamps, knots, and any kinky thing you can think of.  It also covers safe words and contracts, and I’m willing to bet that EL James used this book as a reference for the Fifty Shades trilogy.

This book is extremely useful not only because it emphasizes safety, but because it tells you how to use toys and equipment in the most pleasurable way.  It could definitely use an update so that it’s more up to date with today’s technology  (it mentions payphones as opposed to cellphones for example), but it’s still a great book to get if you’re looking for bold new things to try with your significant other.  And it’s available for Kindle so no one has to know what you’re reading :)

My Big Kinky Erotica Post, Part One

There are many books considered to be “erotic classics,” far too many to list all in one post.  These are the books still whispered about and passed among friends, the ones that have titillated readers for decades.  Maybe you’re heard of these books but never got around to reading them.  Maybe you noticed them tucked in your mom’s sock drawer years ago.  But since the resurgence of erotica in mainstream publishing, these classics are once again becoming popular.  So here is my take on some of the most popular titles in erotic literature.  Enjoy!

Story of O by Pauline Réage (1954)

The ultimate kinky classic!  How could I start this list with anything other than this scandalous BDSM masterpiece?  Originally published in France and later translated into English in 1965, Story of O is every bit the shocking and sinfully enjoyable book its reputation states.  Not so much for the sexual acts described in the book (although the sex is quite graphic), but for the psychology of the protagonist O.

Story of O is about a young Parisian fashion photographer who willfully surrenders herself to slavery and debasement at the hands of her lover René.  O lets René take her to a château in the country where she is used for the sexual gratification of him and three other men.  For two weeks she is routinely bound, flogged, and made to perform various sex acts on demand.  After her stay at the château, O’s journey into total submission continues when René gives her to his best friend and tells her “you belong to him now.”

The sex got my attention, but what held my interest was how the story delved into O’s psyche.  Because even more unsettling that the acts committed against O was her willingness to submit to them.  So desperate to please René was she that she let him use her in any way that he saw fit.  Even when he gave her to other men to beat and abuse, she derived happiness in the knowledge that she was obeying his wishes.  All she desired was reassurance that he still loved her, and she would be happy to endure anything he asked.  And indeed René did insist many times that he truly loved O.  But his love came with a price: absolute obedience, which she freely chose.  It’s a perverted sort of romance, but fascinating nonetheless.

So does Story of O stand the test of time?  Absolutely.  The language is pretty clunky at times (keep in mind it is a translated work) and some of the terms are a little archaic, but the themes it discusses are timeless.  Is there happiness in slavery?  Is total submission the ultimate expression of love?  It’s a heavy story with a ton of kink and even more substance.  Read it slowly, savor it, let it seduce you.  You won’t soon forget it.

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A Sport and a Pastime by James Salter (1967)

Another erotic tale set in France!  Written by American author James Salter, A Sport and a Pastime is the story of an affair between a young American man and a French girl.

Philip Dean is a Yale dropout.  He’s handsome, charming, and privileged.  While vacationing in France, he begins an ill-fated affair with a local girl named Anne-Marie.  Together they travel around the French countryside, and their relationship intensifies as they find new ways to explore their sexuality.  The details of their physical relationship are graphic but not shocking, thanks to Salter’s beautiful and tasteful prose.

We soon see that the relationship isn’t picture-perfect.  When they’re not in bed together, Dean seems disenchanted by Anne-Marie.  He disdains her lack of pedigree, even thinking to himself that her pierced ears make her seem cheap.  He also resents her for being needy and clingy (at least by his perception), and often treats her coldly when they are in public together.

What’s most interesting about A Sport and a Pastime is that it is narrated by a third party who claims to be Dean’s friend.  The book takes on an unsettling voyeuristic aspect when the narrator describes Dean and Anne-Marie’s sexual acts, events he could not have actually witnessed.  Indeed, even the narrator admits that this story is partially his own fantasy of what Dean and Anne-Marie’s relationship was like.  The unreliable narrator adds a unique dimension to this short and sad tale.

While the reader may be wondering which details of the couple’s affair are true, there is one truth that shines through in this book: relationships based solely on sex rarely end well.  When Dean and Anne-Marie were in bed together, they were free and open in their passion for each other.  But in public, social pressures and class prejudices took their toll on the affair.

Some think that A Sport and a Pastime is outdated.  But while some of the language may be a little passé, I think the story itself is timeless.  The book is being republished as an ebook by Open Road Media, and will hopefully attract new readers.

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Nine and a Half Weeks by Elizabeth McNeill (1978)

Written under a pseudonym, Nine and a Half Weeks is a first-person account of a New York woman’s two-month affair with a man she meets casually.  During this time, he comes to dominate every aspect of her life.  He feeds her, bathes her, dresses her, tells her what to do, and yes, he even inserts and removes her tampons for her.  No, I didn’t throw that in there to make sure you were paying attention.  Though the woman’s lover also uses light bondage and corporal punishment on her, the main focus of the book is his emotional dominance over her as opposed to their sexual practices.

In terms of kink, Nine and a Half Weeks is pretty tame in comparison to Story of O.  This book’s controversy lies not in its sexual content, but in its protagonist’s willingness to surrender all her autonomy to her lover.  She writes how adulthood is a burden to her, and what a relief it is for her to let her lover make all her decisions for her, even when it comes to simple things like choosing clothes.  In the 1970s, when feminism was in full swing in the US, this is a bold statement to make.

It’s an interesting book, but for me, Nine and a Half Weeks didn’t have the substance that Story of O  or A Sport and a Pastime had.  It wasn’t quite as deep, I wasn’t drawn to the character in the same way I was drawn to O, and I found the writing style to be pretty flat.  Still, it’s an erotic classic, and worth reading as such.

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Little Birds by Anaïs Nin (1979)

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For those of you looking for short erotic stories, look no further!  Anaïs Nin has long been considered one of the masters of erotic literature, and this volume showcases the sensuality and beauty of her writing.

The thirteen stories in Little Birds deal with a range of sex-related topics, including virginity, sexual passivity/dominance, lesbianism, and even pedophilia.  Many of the women in these stories find themselves experimenting with new sexual experiences and learning to open themselves up to their own desires.  One of my favorites was “The Maja,” in which a seemingly prudish woman discovers her sensual side after she discovers her artist husband has been secretly making nude paintings of her.

The writing style of Little Birds is beautiful in its simplicity, and the stories are a lot deeper than you would think at first glance.  It’s a short volume, but not one to be read through quickly.  Perfect for those who prefer softer erotica, and a great way to introduce yourself to the writing of Anaïs Nin!

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I hope you get a chance to check out these old classics.  Maybe they will become your new favorites.  Or are you looking for something a little more modern?  Stay tuned for the follow-up to this post, where I talk about some newer erotic titles!

‘Darker’ I Go!

Since I admit that I enjoyed the first one (probably more than I should have), last week I decided to go ahead and read the second installment of the Fifty Shades trilogy, Fifty Shades Darker.  Someone gave me an Amazon gift card for my birthday, so I really had nothing to lose.  I wanted to see if the story was worth continuing and also what other crazy hijinks America’s most delightfully perverted couple can get into.  So here we go:

**[SPOILERS: They have sex]**

After Ana dumped Christian at the end of the first book, she spends all of the first chapter of the second book feeling sorry for herself and trying to move on with her life.  By the end of the second chapter, she and Christian are back together.  So much for moving on.  Not able to endure the agony of their eight minute breakup, Christian begs Ana to take him back and promises to curb his BDSM-related desires in order to be in a “vanilla” relationship with her.

Even though Christian promises no hardcore stuff, Darker still delivers all kinds of “kinky fuckery,” in which Ana and Christian express their renewed feelings for each other by having sex on a boat, a billiard table, a coffee table, a grand piano, in an elevator, in his childhood bedroom, and I think in a bed.  To shake things up, the book goes all Lifetime Movie and throws in a psycho ex-girlfriend and some sexual harassment by Ana’s new boss.

Despite all my common sense telling me I should hate this book, I had the same dumb smile on my face while reading it that I did when I read the first book.  For the brutally hot sex scenes, I was willing to forgive the lame dialogue and barely-there plot.  I was even willing to overlook the return of the annoying e-mails and the much-hated “inner goddess.”  However, some of the dialogue was just so cheesy it was awesome.  Among my personal favorites were Christian’s lines “I don’t know whether to worship at your feet or spank the shit out of you,” and “Why, why do you defy me?” 

**[REAL SPOILERS]**

One thing that perturbed me about Darker however, aside from the awkward ice cream scene, was Ana and Christian getting engaged.  Not because of the fact that they have only known each other for a few weeks, but because it ruins the spirit of the books.  I don’t want to read about two people getting married…I am married.  These books are about fantasy and about exploring taboo subjects in a fun and safe way, so having Ana and Christian get married is just so…blah.  Their tempestuous, sometimes dangerous relationship and Christian’s mysterious persona are what made the first book fun and exciting.  But now he’s supposedly cured of his dark impulses, and so they’re engaged and he bought her a ring and a huge house and of course she’s quickly developing a case of Baby Rabies.  *sigh*  It’s great to want those things in real life, but in a story that’s supposed to be dark and erotic, those things just kill the mood. 

Of course I’m not criticizing marriage as an institution (I am married, remember), and I’m certainly not saying that married couples can’t experiment with or enjoy a BDSM lifestyle.  I’m just saying that in terms of pure escapism and erotic fantasy, the “happily ever after” has got to go.

Granted, I haven’t yet read the third book in the trilogy, so I don’t know what happens next.  But deep down inside I’m hoping just a little bit for Christian to get cold feet, or for another psycho ex to ruin their wedding.  Because I don’t want Ana and Christian to be happy.  I want them to be tortured and confused.  Why?  Because they’re not real people!  I’m real, and reality is boring.  Domestic bliss has no place in this story.  I want my smut to be smutty; I don’t want my favorite friends with benefits falling in love and picking out china patterns.  So while I am still (ashamedly) eager to read the next and last Fifty Shades book, I’ll be sorely disappointed if it turns out to be five hundred pages of “I love you” and the two of them exchanging innuendos while doing the dishes.

Laters, baby!

Early Review: A Lady Cyclist’s Guide to Kashgar

A Lady Cyclist’s Guide to Kashgar by Suzanne Joinson (pub date 5/22/12)

“The tide had moved up the shore at an incredible rate and with the sound of shingle dragging up, and drragging down, taking away with it all the lies she had been told as a child. . .”

Now that summer is fast approaching, this is a great book to read for the season.  Full of exotic travel, interesting characters, and excellent writing, it’s a summer read with substance.

A Lady Cyclist’s Guide to Kashgar is an inter-generational drama about love, loss, and betrayal, peppered with the intrigue and danger of the mysterious Far East.  In 1923, sisters Evangeline and Lizzie are on a missionary journey in the Turkish city of Kashgar.  Led by the matronly figure Millicent, the ladies are spreading the Gospel in a land mostly populated by Muslims, while Evangeline takes notes for the travel guide she is planning to write.  When the trio finds themselves the subjects of a local dispute, their lives quickly change in ways they never thought possible.

The 1923 story alternates with a story set in present-day London.  Freida Blakeman is a world-weary young woman about to embark on a journey of self-discovery.  She is aided by Tayeb, a Yemeni national living illegally in England, whom she recently befriended.  Slowly, the connection between the alternating plots is revealed.

This is a rich book, touched with sadness yet still full of hope.  The story sucks you in from the first page, and is well written throughout.  I enjoyed the contrast between the two stories, not just in the settings, but in the situation the characters find themselves in.  Evangeline, Lizzie, and Millicent are three British women in a foreign and sometimes hostile Muslim land, while Tayeb is a Muslim in England, a land foreign and sometimes hostile to him.  And while the three missionary women face mainly external conflict, Freida’s conflict is all within herself.  It’s s story about finding your roots, and about making your own destiny.

This is a great book for anyone who enjoys literary fiction, or stories about women’s relationships.  A nice debut novel from a promising new writer.

Early Review: Rain Dragon

Rain Dragon by Jon Raymond (pub date 4/24/12)

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“Now that my former life was so definitively behind me, I could see it for all its wonderful comfort and ease.”

Rain Dragon is a short novel about what happens when people get what they are searching for and still find themselves wanting more. 

Damon and his longtime girlfriend Amy are young adults looking for a change from the grind of their daily lives.  They decide to say goodbye to their jobs, their commutes, and their comforts in Los Angeles and join a commune of organic farmers.  Amy seems to find her place in the community pretty quickly, while Damon struggles to fit in and has a difficult time letting go of his former life in Los Angeles.  This disparity quickly puts a strain on their relationship.  But soon enough, Damon’s luck changes when he is asked to take control of the farm’s marketing and branding efforts. 

I’m still not really sure what to make of this book.  It had a very promising and interesting premise, but I started losing interest about a third of the way through.  The characters are underdeveloped, and the rest of the story was pretty weak.  I found it pretty unclear what the true point of the story really was.  Damon was a likeable enough character, but the author didn’t flesh him out enough to make him interesting.

Indie books can be really amazing, but in this case there just wasn’t enough to really hold my interest.